// Living …Single???//
I was told a few weeks back that I reminded someone of Erika Alexander’s character Maxine Shaw from the 90s show Living Single. I had not heard this comparison in years, so it prompted me to look think. It had be at least 5 years since anyone had said that to me and I had always assumed it was my styled locs more than anything else. Since then I have cut off said locs and now I am sporting baby locs for my new set that I am growing. I had to ask this person what exactly was it about me that reminded them of that character and was told “The way you talk.”
It’s funny because I had always likened the way that I spoke to my mom. It was her special influence that gave me the peppery attitude and quick wit that I pride myself as a conversationalist of sorts, and that was way before Maxine Shaw came on the scene. I often look at my husband watching Martin and I think, “He has seen so much of this show, he thinks he is Martin!” That’s what happened to the guys my age they all grabbed a little bit of Nino Brown, Martin, or Tupac and here is why dating at 30 something was a headache! But I digress. So, I watched a couple of episodes of Living Single just to get reaquainted, and I’ll be damned Maxine is the only character other than Queen Latifah’s character that I can even relate to.
So maybe I am a little influenced by Max; she was cool, funny, strong-headed, goal oriented and quasi feminine. I have subscribed to those adjectives at some point in my life. It was also interesting to me when I thought back to Max’s relationship with the character Kyle Barker and how their romance was classic love-hate. I can say that used to be my romantic life to a T! It took a lot of vulnerability to release those types of love-hate relating processes and attain ones of love-love.
So I guess I don’t mind reminding any one of Ms.Shaw. I’ve come a long way…Living …not so single now. I’m sure Maxine would have gotten here too. Peace.~z